How to Handle Rejection

After a Break-up
Your continuing sorrow is a reflection of believing that you need that person in your life to feel happy. This isn’t true. Being around a person, talking to people, kissing a girlfriend––these are all just pleasures. They can certainly bring you temporary happiness, but they’re not permanent and they don’t define your own choices to be happy within. If you continue to think that these pleasures are what constitute true happiness, you will keep fooling yourself into believing that you should feel terrible because you don’t have the person or didn’t get the opportunity. This chase for a pleasure based solely on what you haven’t got can easily become an addiction that only brings you more sorrow in the long run.

  • Pleasures are temporary, they come and go and have no permanent place in your life. Understanding this will help you to understand that pleasures aren’t the source of your happiness. Being happy is an internal process, something that comes from within. By realizing that rejection isn’t loss of your inner happiness, you won’t make yourself suffer.

Be careful if you’re a “they should” thinker. This style of thinking requires people to behave in a certain way, as in “they should recognize how brilliant/talented/extraordinary I am.” Leaving aside whether or not you’re actually doing enough to prove the things you feel others should be seeing in you, this kind of thinking gives away power––yours––to other people and leaves you in a position of relying on their acceptance of you for you to feel good about yourself. This slippery slope thinking style risks turning rejection into a regular occurrence in your life because you keep setting yourself up to be judged and found wanting.

Always remember, you do not need anything external to feel happy. Things can only bring you temporary happiness. The only permanent happiness is found in understanding this and in acknowledging the awesomeness of being alive.

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Moving talk by an inspiring woman about her own life and hearing voices. Healing by listening to and comforting the voices in her head, seeing them as shattered pieces of herself and emotions associated with childhood trauma. I recommend watching this. I hope you find comfort in it.

Sometimes you’re all alone with only the moon for company.
There’s a freedom in it, and a great sadness… and a comfort.

Moments by yourself. Choices made of chance and feeling.
Connection.
Fear of wrongness is there, but a certainty is growing.
Don’t care so much if it’s wrong, because the feeling of right is stronger.
The feeling me MEness.
Who I am.
What I like.
My decisions.
The universe is with me.

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Epica - Storm the Sorrow

Along the way I find myself
To be confined within me
No place for any others mind to interfere

To grasp the meaning of it all
To overcome my limits
And dance away from any void and empty tones

Just tell me why
Just tell me how
I can survive this time

Believe yourselves and look away
From all that’s right within you
Leave all your worries at the door
And drift away

I’ve tried to peer into the core
But could not storm the sorrow
My hollow heart has bled me dry, left me to stray

Another time
Without a trace
Condemned me now
Send me to hell
For I’m already failing

Intertwine the lines
That swim beneath the dark
Realize the pain we live in
Demonize the need we reel in

In my memories I’ll dig deep enough to know
Centuries of dreams unending
Another me that yielded tears when someone had betrayed

No time to ever go to waste
It’s not that complicated
You’re free to live your life at ease
No more restraints

No heed for shadows on your way
That try to steal your laughter
Your light will drive them all away
Be confident

Will i refrain?
Can i repent?
Will you be there?
Erase the page
For I’m alone and ailing

Intertwine the lines
That swim beneath the dark
Realize the pain we live in
Demonize the need we reel in

In my memories I’ll dig deep enough to know
Centuries of dreams unending
Another me that yielded tears when someone had betrayed

So
This is my life
And it can’t break me down

Go
I will decide
Who can come in
And heal my disease

Burn it
In flames
Kill it
And maim
Why can’t you see
That you need to be freed

Intertwine the lines
beneath the dark
Every bit of pain we’re feeling
Every other solemn life

In the memories you will find somehow
There used to be a dream unending
No more need to be alone

Intertwine the lines
That swim beneath the dark
Realize the pain we live in
Demonize the need we reel in

In my memories I’ll dig deep enough to know
Centuries of dreams unending
Another me that yielded tears when someone had betrayed
Someone had betrayed